This is the time of year when emotions are running high. So expect to feel sad or shed a tear or two,
or three, or thousand. If your loss was
only a few weeks ago, or years ago, the holidays will have you emotionally remembering
your baby.
These are some ways that helped me
*Work around how you’re feeling. One night you might feel OK
to be surrounded by loved ones and the next you might want to sit at home in
your PJs and cry. If you decide to go out and you get overwhelmed, have a pre-planned
“way out”.
*Christmas shopping can be difficult with the Santa in the
middle of the mall, families, toy isles, etc.
So take advantage of online shopping.
*Do something for others, or donate in your baby’s name to a
charity or hospital. We donate to toy
for tots. I buy toys that I would have
bought for our son.
*We also hang a special ornament on our tree.
*Buy a memorial flower or poinsettia
*Light a special candle.
We bring a special candle to all family Christmas parties
*Decorate the grave site or urn with Christmas
decorations.
Some people many not understand your needs to remember or
talk about your baby. Their 5 minutes of
uncomfortable conversation will help you, and it will teach them how to treat
and react to you. It’s your new normal, a
way to remember your angel baby, and move forward.
Remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and you
are not alone.
